After hearing some exploits from friends and family in the past about people they describe as "controlling", it made me think about what the cause of this controlling behavior might be. My answer is that I believe that there is a direct relationship between a person wishing to exhibit control over some aspect in their life, and their insecurity in that same aspect of life.
For example, is someone you know controlling as far as the household finances? It very well maybe that they feel the need to exhibit this control because of an insecurity of receiving a windfall of financial hardship if they don't.
Let's take another example. A wife feels insecure about her looks, so she exhibits a desire to have control over the natural progression of her beauty as she ages, and receives plastic surgery. Meanwhile, her husband feels insecure about his masculinity and sees his wife with a surgically enhanced looks and his insecurity becomes exacerbated. Suddenly, he becomes (more) controlling in regards to where his wife goes unattended because he himself is insecure of losing her to someone younger and more masculine.
There are plenty of other scenarios I could potentially come up with, but I think the relationship between insecurity and the exhibition of control is clear. If it is true, I think it does offer a little more understanding about those who exhibit controlling behavior over us, and perhaps enable us to sympathize rather than patronize.
Any thoughts?
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